Tics and Tourette’s: What They Are, Why They Happen, and How Therapy Can Help
Tics can be confusing—for both the person experiencing them and the people around them. They often show up suddenly, change over time, and feel difficult (or impossible) to control.
For many families, the biggest questions are:
Why is this happening?
Will it go away?
Should we be doing something about it?
If you or your child is dealing with tics or Tourette’s, you’re not alone—and there are effective ways to understand and manage them.
What Are Tics?
Tics are sudden, repetitive movements or sounds that a person feels an urge to do.
They are not just habits, and they’re not something someone can simply “stop” with willpower.
Common Types of Tics
Motor tics (movement-based):
Blinking
Facial grimacing
Shoulder shrugging
Head jerking
Vocal tics (sound-based):
Throat clearing
Sniffing
Grunting
Repeating words or sounds
Tics can be:
Mild or more noticeable
Temporary or longer-lasting
Constant or changing over time
One important thing to know: tics often wax and wane, meaning they can get better and worse at different times.
What Is Tourette’s Syndrome?
Tourette’s syndrome is a neurological condition that involves:
Multiple motor tics
At least one vocal tic
Symptoms present for over a year
Tourette’s usually begins in childhood, often between ages 5–10.
Despite common stereotypes, most people with Tourette’s do not have severe or extreme symptoms. Many experience mild to moderate tics that fluctuate over time.
Why Do Tics Happen?
Tics are believed to be related to differences in how the brain regulates movement and urges.
Most people with tics experience something called a premonitory urge—a buildup of tension or sensation that is temporarily relieved by doing the tic.
It can feel like:
Pressure
Itchiness
A “need” to move or make a sound
What Makes Tics Worse?
Tics tend to increase during:
Stress or anxiety
Excitement
Fatigue
Transitions or pressure (like school or social situations)
This is why many parents notice that tics:
Are worse at home after school
Show up more during challenging periods
Increase when attention is drawn to them
Tics vs. Habits vs. OCD
This is one of the most confusing areas.
Tics can look similar to:
Habits
Compulsions (OCD)
But they are different.
Tics:
Driven by a physical urge
Relieved by doing the movement or sound
OCD compulsions:
Driven by anxiety or fear
Done to prevent something bad from happening
That said, tics and OCD often overlap, and many individuals experience both.
Should You Be Concerned About Tics?
Not all tics require treatment.
However, it may be helpful to seek support if tics are:
Causing embarrassment or distress
Interfering with school or focus
Leading to teasing or avoidance
Creating tension at home
Getting more intense over time
Even when tics are mild, therapy can help reduce stress around them and improve confidence.
How Therapy Helps with Tics and Tourette’s
One of the most effective treatments for tic disorders is:
CBIT (Comprehensive Behavioral Intervention for Tics)
CBIT is considered the gold-standard behavioral treatment for tics.
It does not focus on forcing tics to stop.
Instead, it helps people understand and manage them more effectively.
CBIT Helps You:
Recognize early signs that a tic is coming
Understand triggers and patterns
Learn “competing responses” that reduce tic intensity
Lower stress that makes tics worse
CBIT is structured, practical, and highly effective—especially when combined with support around anxiety and environment.
What Parents Often Get Wrong (and What Helps Instead)
When a child has tics, it’s completely natural to want to help—but some common reactions can unintentionally make things harder.
What doesn’t help:
Constantly pointing out the tic
Asking the child to “just stop”
Drawing attention to it in front of others
What helps:
Staying neutral and calm
Reducing pressure around the tic
Focusing on the child’s overall wellbeing
Getting guidance from a therapist trained in tic disorders
Often, reducing stress around the tic can reduce the tic itself.
Tics, Anxiety, and Confidence
One of the biggest challenges with tics isn’t just the tic—it’s how it impacts confidence and self-image.
Kids and teens may:
Feel embarrassed
Try to hide their symptoms
Avoid social situations
Worry about what others think
Therapy helps shift this by:
Reducing shame
Building confidence
Creating a sense of control
Helping them navigate real-life situations
Do Tics Go Away?
For many children, tics improve over time—especially into adolescence.
For others, they may continue but become:
Less intense
More manageable
Less distressing
The goal of therapy isn’t perfection.
It’s helping someone feel:
More in control
Less overwhelmed
More confident in daily life
When to Reach Out for Support
If tics are starting to impact daily life—or if you’re just unsure what to do—it can be helpful to talk to someone who specializes in this area.
The right support can make a big difference in how tics are experienced and managed.
OCD vs Anxiety: How to Tell the Difference (And Why It Matters)
It’s one of the most common questions we hear:
“Do I have anxiety… or is this OCD?”
They can feel very similar—but understanding the difference matters, because the treatment approach is different.
What Is Anxiety?
Anxiety is typically focused on real-life concerns.
It often sounds like:
“What if I fail this test?”
“What if something goes wrong?”
“What if I embarrass myself?”
Anxiety tends to involve:
Overthinking
Worry about future outcomes
Avoidance of stressful situations
What Is OCD?
Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) involves:
Intrusive, unwanted thoughts (obsessions)
Repetitive behaviors or mental rituals (compulsions)
These thoughts are often:
Distressing
Illogical or out of character
Difficult to “turn off”
Examples:
“What if I hurt someone?”
“What if I’m a bad person?”
“What if I didn’t lock the door and something terrible happens?”
The Key Difference
The biggest difference is this:
Anxiety = worry about real-life problems
OCD = intrusive thoughts + compulsions to feel certain or safe
Side-by-Side Comparison
Anxiety:
Based in real-world concerns
Thinking-heavy (rumination)
Avoidance is common
OCD:
Intrusive, unwanted thoughts
Urges to “do something” to neutralize the thought
Repetitive behaviors (checking, reassurance, mental reviewing)
Real-Life Example
Anxiety:
“I’m nervous about my presentation tomorrow.”
OCD:
“What if I say something offensive and ruin everything?”
→ Replaying it over and over
→ Seeking reassurance
→ Avoiding speaking altogether
When It’s Both
Many people experience both anxiety and OCD together.
For example:
Anxiety about school or performance
OCD thoughts about making a mistake or harming someone
This is where it can get confusing—and why proper diagnosis matters.
Why the Difference Matters for Treatment
Traditional talk therapy works well for anxiety.
But for OCD, the gold-standard treatment is:
Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP)
ERP helps you:
Face intrusive thoughts
Stop the compulsive response
Build tolerance to uncertainty
When to Seek Help
You may want to reach out if:
Thoughts feel intrusive or hard to control
You’re stuck in loops of checking or reassurance
Anxiety is interfering with daily life
You’re unsure what you’re dealing with
OCD and Anxiety Therapy in Atlanta
At Dear Therapy, we specialize in helping children, teens, and adults understand the difference between anxiety and OCD—and get the right treatment for it.
How to Help a Child with Selective Mutism at School (A Practical Guide for Parents and Teachers)
When a child talks freely at home but goes completely silent at school, it can be confusing, frustrating, and even alarming for parents and teachers. It may look like the child is being oppositional or refusing to participate—but in reality, something very different is happening.
Selective Mutism (SM) is often misunderstood, but with the right approach, children can make meaningful, lasting progress.
What’s Really Happening
Selective Mutism is not defiance—it’s anxiety.
Children with SM are experiencing a freeze response in environments where speaking feels overwhelming. Their brain is essentially signaling danger in situations that involve communication, especially when attention is placed on them.
Even if they want to speak, their body may feel stuck. This can lead to:
Avoidance of participation
Increased anxiety around school
Feelings of embarrassment or shame
Understanding this is the first step. When adults shift from “Why won’t they talk?” to “What’s making this feel unsafe?” everything changes.
What NOT to Do
Even with the best intentions, some responses can unintentionally reinforce the anxiety:
Don’t pressure the child to speak (“Just say it” or “Use your words”)
Don’t speak for them excessively, which can reinforce avoidance
Don’t label them as “shy” or “quiet” in front of others
Don’t draw attention to their silence in group settings
These approaches can increase pressure and make speaking feel even more threatening.
What Actually Helps
The goal is to lower pressure while gently building confidence.
Effective strategies include:
Create low-pressure opportunities to speak
Start in environments where the child already feels somewhat comfortable.Use gradual exposure (step-by-step)
Break speaking into small, manageable steps instead of expecting immediate participation.Reinforce effort, not outcome
Praise attempts (even small ones), rather than whether the child spoke perfectly or loudly.Use "brave talking" language
Frame speaking as something courageous rather than expected.Collaborate across environments
Consistency between parents, teachers, and therapists is key to progress.
What This Looks Like in Practice (Progression Model)
Progress is gradual—and that’s okay. A typical progression might look like:
Nonverbal communication (pointing, nodding)
Whispering to a trusted adult
Speaking softly to one peer
Speaking in small, predictable groups
Participating more openly in class
Each step builds confidence and teaches the brain: speaking is safe.
Supporting the Child Emotionally
Children with SM are often highly aware of their difficulty speaking. They may feel embarrassed or worry that something is “wrong” with them.
Helpful emotional supports include:
Normalizing that anxiety can make speaking hard
Avoiding shame or frustration
Celebrating small wins
Letting the child go at their own pace
Confidence grows when children feel understood—not pressured.
The Goal
The goal is not immediate speech—it’s reducing anxiety around speaking.
When anxiety decreases, speech follows naturally.
With consistency, patience, and the right support, children with Selective Mutism can build confidence, find their voice, and begin communicating more freely across environments.
Progress may be gradual—but it is absolutely possible.
What Is “Pure O” OCD? The Hidden Compulsions No One Sees
Many people believe OCD is only about visible behaviors—like hand washing or checking. But for some, the compulsions are entirely internal. This is often referred to as “Pure O” OCD.
What Is Pure O?
“Pure O” stands for “purely obsessional” OCD, but the name is misleading. Compulsions are still present—they’re just mental.
Common Mental Compulsions
Mental reviewing (“Did I mean that?”)
Reassuring yourself internally
Replaying conversations
Trying to “figure it out”
Praying or neutralizing thoughts
Because these happen internally, they often go unnoticed—leading people to feel confused or misdiagnosed.
Why It Feels So Real
Mental compulsions keep the brain engaged with the thought, making it feel more urgent and meaningful.
Treatment
ERP for Pure O focuses on:
Not engaging with mental rituals
Allowing uncertainty
Breaking the need to “solve” the thought
Why Do I Keep Having Intrusive Thoughts? Understanding the OCD Cycle
If you’ve ever found yourself asking, “Why am I thinking this?” or “What does this say about me?”—you’re not alone. Intrusive thoughts are one of the most common (and most misunderstood) symptoms of OCD and anxiety.
These thoughts can feel disturbing, confusing, and completely out of character. They often involve themes like harm, sexuality, morality, or losing control. And the more you try to push them away, the stronger they seem to come back.
What Are Intrusive Thoughts?
Intrusive thoughts are unwanted, automatic thoughts that enter your mind without intention. Everyone has them—but for people with OCD, they stick.
The difference is not the thought itself—it’s how the brain responds to it.
The OCD Cycle
Intrusive Thought: “What if I hurt someone?”
Meaning Assigned: “Why would I think that? Something must be wrong with me.”
Anxiety Spike
Compulsion: Reassurance, avoidance, checking, mental reviewing
Temporary Relief → Reinforcement
This cycle teaches the brain that the thought is important and dangerous, which makes it come back more often.
Why You Can’t “Just Stop Thinking It”
Trying to suppress a thought actually makes it stronger. The brain flags it as something important to monitor, which increases its frequency.
How ERP Helps
Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP) teaches you to:
Allow the thought to be there
Resist the urge to neutralize it
Sit with uncertainty
Over time, the brain learns the thought is not dangerous—and it loses its power.
Is It Selective Mutism or Social Anxiety? Understanding the Difference and Overlap
After learning about Selective Mutism (SM), one of the most common questions parents and individuals ask is: How is this different from social anxiety?
At first glance, the two can look very similar. Both involve fear in social situations, avoidance, and intense discomfort when attention is placed on the individual. But understanding the differences is important—not just for clarity, but for effective treatment.
What Is Social Anxiety?
Social Anxiety Disorder involves a strong fear of being judged, embarrassed, or negatively evaluated by others. Individuals with social anxiety may:
Avoid speaking in groups
Fear presentations or being called on
Worry about saying the “wrong thing”
Experience physical symptoms like sweating, shaking, or a racing heart
Unlike Selective Mutism, people with social anxiety are typically able to speak—but may do so with significant distress or avoidance.
What Makes Selective Mutism Different?
Selective Mutism is not just fear—it’s a freeze response.
Individuals with SM often want to speak, but feel physically unable to in certain situations. This can look like:
Complete silence in specific environments (like school or social settings)
Speaking freely at home but not in public
Difficulty initiating speech even when they know the answer
Using gestures, nodding, or whispering instead of speaking
The key distinction: in SM, the barrier is not just anxiety—it’s inhibition of speech itself.
Where They Overlap
Selective Mutism is actually considered part of the anxiety disorder spectrum, and many individuals with SM also meet criteria for social anxiety.
Both may include:
Fear of judgment or embarrassment
Avoidance of social situations
Anticipatory anxiety before speaking
Relief after avoiding the feared situation
Because of this overlap, it’s not always about choosing one diagnosis over the other—it’s about understanding the primary pattern and how it shows up.
Why This Distinction Matters for Treatment
While both conditions respond well to exposure-based approaches, the starting point and pacing can differ.
For Social Anxiety:
Focus may be on gradually increasing participation
Challenging negative beliefs about judgment
Practicing speaking despite discomfort
For Selective Mutism:
Focus is on unlocking speech in a structured, step-by-step way
Starting with very low-pressure verbalizations (even single words or sounds)
Building momentum through consistent, supported exposure
In both cases, Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP) or exposure-based therapy helps individuals learn that anxiety is tolerable—and that avoidance is not necessary.
A Helpful Way to Think About It
Social Anxiety: “I’m afraid to speak.”
Selective Mutism: “I want to speak, but I can’t.”
This distinction can help guide both understanding and intervention.
Moving Forward
If you or your child is struggling with speaking in certain situations, it’s important to look beyond surface behavior and understand what’s driving it. Whether it’s Selective Mutism, Social Anxiety, or a combination of both, effective treatment is available.
With the right support, individuals can build confidence, reduce anxiety, and begin to communicate more freely across environments. Progress may be gradual—but each step forward matters.
Understanding PANDAS and OCD: When Symptoms Appear Suddenly in Children
For many families, the onset of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) in a child is gradual—subtle worries that slowly grow over time. But for some, the change is sudden and dramatic. A child who was previously functioning well may develop intense OCD symptoms seemingly overnight. In these cases, one possible explanation is PANDAS.
What Is PANDAS?
PANDAS stands for Pediatric Autoimmune Neuropsychiatric Disorders Associated with Streptococcal Infections. It is a condition in which a child develops sudden-onset OCD symptoms or tic disorders following a strep infection (such as strep throat).
The theory behind PANDAS is that the body’s immune response to infection mistakenly targets parts of the brain—particularly areas involved in movement and behavior—leading to rapid changes in thoughts, emotions, and actions.
Key Signs of PANDAS
PANDAS is different from typical OCD in how quickly symptoms appear. Common signs include:
Sudden onset of OCD symptoms (often within days)
Tics or unusual movements
Increased anxiety or separation anxiety
Emotional changes, including irritability or mood swings
Decline in school performance or behavior
Sleep disturbances or regression in behaviors
Parents often describe it as a “switch flipping” in their child.
How Is PANDAS Different from Traditional OCD?
While both involve intrusive thoughts and compulsive behaviors, the biggest difference is onset and cause:
Typical OCD: Gradual onset, often influenced by genetics, temperament, and environment
PANDAS-related OCD: Sudden onset linked to an immune response following infection
That said, the experience of OCD itself—intrusive thoughts, rituals, and distress—can feel very similar for the child.
Treatment: Medical + Psychological Support
Treatment for PANDAS often involves a combination of medical and therapeutic approaches:
Medical care to address the underlying infection or immune response (often guided by a pediatrician or specialist)
Therapy, especially Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP), to help children manage OCD symptoms
Even when symptoms are triggered by a medical condition, the OCD cycle still benefits from evidence-based psychological treatment.
Why ERP Still Matters
ERP helps children gradually face fears and reduce compulsive behaviors, even when symptoms appear suddenly. The goal is to help the brain relearn that anxiety can be tolerated—and that compulsions are not necessary to feel safe.
For example:
A child afraid of contamination may practice touching objects without washing immediately
A child with checking behaviors may practice resisting the urge to re-check
With support, children can regain confidence and functioning over time.
What Parents Should Know
If you suspect PANDAS, it’s important to seek a comprehensive evaluation. At the same time, it’s equally important not to wait on therapy. Early intervention—especially with ERP—can significantly improve outcomes.
Most importantly: your child is not choosing these behaviors. What you are seeing is a combination of anxiety, biology, and learned patterns. With the right support, improvement is absolutely possible.
Moving Forward
PANDAS can be confusing and overwhelming for families, especially when symptoms appear so suddenly. But understanding the connection between the immune system and OCD can help guide the next steps.
With a combination of medical care and evidence-based therapy, children can regain stability, confidence, and a sense of control. Recovery is not only possible—it is expected with the right approach.
Reclaiming Your Identity from OCD: Who Are You Without the Compulsions?
OCD can feel like it hijacks your personality. Over time, the rituals and fears can take up so much mental space that it’s hard to remember who you were before OCD became loud.
The Identity Impact of OCD
Many people report feeling:
Lost or disconnected from their sense of self
Afraid of who they might be without OCD to "keep them in check"
Unsure what their values, preferences, or passions are
This is especially common for people who have lived with OCD for many years. The compulsions become part of daily life, part of routines, part of how they relate to the world.
What Recovery Makes Room For
As OCD symptoms begin to decrease through ERP and other therapeutic work, space opens up for something new: you. Without the need to perform rituals or obey intrusive thoughts, people often rediscover forgotten interests, new goals, and deeper relationships.
Healing the Relationship with Yourself
Explore values-based living: What matters to you underneath the fear? This is a core part of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), often used alongside ERP.
Practice self-compassion: You are more than your thoughts. You are more than your symptoms.
Let go of the OCD identity: It doesn’t define you. It never did.
There is life after OCD. And it includes the real you—the one who has always been there, waiting to be seen.
OCD and the Fear of Making the Wrong Decision: Understanding Indecisiveness and Moral Scrupulosity
OCD can target anything—and that includes decision-making. For some people, even the smallest choice feels loaded with anxiety. What if I make the wrong call? What if I hurt someone? What if this says something terrible about who I am?
This form of OCD often shows up as:
Decision paralysis over everyday choices (what to eat, what to wear)
Moral scrupulosity, or intense anxiety over being a “good” person or making the ethically right decision
Endless rumination about past choices
Seeking reassurance from others about whether a choice was "right"
Why It Happens
At its core, OCD is about intolerance of uncertainty. Decisions are full of unknowns. The compulsive need to be 100% sure can keep someone stuck, afraid to move forward.
How ERP Can Help
Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP) helps individuals confront the fear of making a mistake and resist the urge to overanalyze or seek reassurance. Over time, ERP helps build confidence in one’s ability to tolerate uncertainty and live with the normal discomfort of decision-making.
You Are Not Alone
If this is you, know that you’re not broken or overdramatic. You’re not a bad person for wanting to get it "just right." With the right support, you can start making decisions with greater ease—and with less fear.
The Role of Family Accommodation in OCD: When Helping Hurts
Living with OCD is hard. Watching someone you love struggle with it can be just as painful. It’s natural for family members to want to help—to ease the anxiety, stop the rituals, and offer constant reassurance. But sometimes, what feels like help is actually making things worse. This pattern is called family accommodation, and it's a common barrier to OCD recovery.
What is Family Accommodation?
Family accommodation refers to any behavior from a loved one that enables or participates in the person’s OCD rituals. This can include:
Answering repeated reassurance questions
Avoiding triggering topics or places
Participating in rituals
Helping the person avoid distress or discomfort
While these actions may reduce conflict in the short term, they reinforce the idea that the person needs their compulsions to feel safe.
Why It Feels Helpful (But Isn’t)
Family members are often motivated by love and fear. Watching someone spiral with anxiety is agonizing, and it’s tempting to do whatever it takes to make them feel better. But accommodating OCD prevents the person from learning that anxiety is tolerable and that compulsions aren’t necessary.
What You Can Do Instead
Learn about ERP: Exposure and Response Prevention is the gold standard treatment. Understanding its goals can help you support your loved one’s treatment.
Set boundaries with compassion: Say things like, “I know this is hard, but I’m working on not giving reassurance so you can get stronger.”
Work with a therapist: Many OCD therapists involve family members in the process, helping everyone learn how to respond in helpful, growth-oriented ways.
OCD impacts the whole family. Healing does too.